Dealing with Your Parents’ Separation or Divorce
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Parents split up because of problems in their relationship. It is not your fault.
Every year in BC, thousands of married and common-law couples stop living together. This is called separation. When married people separate, their marriage isn’t legally ended yet. They still have to get a divorce to legally end their marriage. But before that, they need to make important decisions, especially if there are children.
They have to decide:
- How much time with each parent, and other important people, spend with the children?
- How will they support the children?
- How will they make important decisions about the children?
- How will they divide the things they own?
You aren't alone
It's completely normal to feel a mix of emotions when your parents split. Your feelings are valid, even if they're painful. It can be really tough with all the changes. You have the right to share your thoughts and ideas about things that affect you because your voice is important.
You aren't alone and you will get through this. There are lots of people, resources and services there to help you when things are tricky at home.


Get help
Get resource or connect with counsellors at KidsHelpPhone.ca. Text CONNECT to 686868 to access confidential support


Dig Deeper
Information for children and teens from FamilyLawinBC.ca has information on family law issues most commonly asked by children and teens.
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International Rights of the Child
UN Convention on the Right of the Child that apply to you up until you are 18. All children have the right
- Not to be discriminated against
- To live, be safe and develop to your fullest potential
- To have a voice heard and respected in decisions that impact you
- To have adults make decisions about you that are in your best interest
Dig deeper in Kids have rights!
Have a Voice
Adults making decisions about you should take your views seriously, even if they might not always be able to do exactly what you want.
This right becomes especially important if your parents are separating or you are in the government’s care. You have the right to express your views on things that impact your life. See Your Rights in Care: What You Need to Know and Dealing with Your Parents’ Separation or Divorce.
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The minimum age Canadian citizens can vote in municipal, provincial or federal elections is 18. If you are 16 or 17 you can register on the List of Future Voters which will automatically register you to vote when you turn 18. You can learn more about registering to the Future Voter list at Elections BC.